Chael made me popcorn for a treat as he has to make it in a pot on the stove due downsizing of our kitchen (the popcorn popper went months ago).
We watched the movie TED while he massaged my arms and upper back/shoulders.
it had cute bits, we laughed but probably will never it watch it again. I hated the ending where she agreed to marry a guy who was totally irresponsible and continuously fucked her over with no sign he would change.
It was a nice night. For the rubs Chael and I sat an the floor with me between his legs. After the massages were done we stayed that way and now and then I would lean back against him or he would lean forward to hug me.
Now we're off to bed. Chael isn't tired but I am and we have to get up at 8am. Late for him but godawful early for me so I need to sleep. He's waiting for me to lay down and cuddle, so I'll end this.
Friday, November 30, 2012
Sleeping and Working
Chael got off work early today (as in, released, not just because he felt like it) after doing a detail - police call all morning. The exciting thrills and chills of permanent party active duty: picking up trash from the lawns on post.
He came home and quickly crashed in his room, he's been asleep for about two hours now. He's always one to sleep a lot, but it seems it's been more than usual lately.
Though I do need to remind him that a good part of why he needs night-time sleep meds is probably because he takes a huge nap in the middle of the day... Just maybe...
I may have to address that with him in more than the occasional smart-ass comment way.
Tonight is Zumba for me, more treadmill time for him.
I've been keeping mental tally on what he's eating each day as he wants to lose a lot of weight and asked me to. According to science he should be losing some, but in reality he's not.
I think I may have found the perfect apartment complex for us in NYC. The pictures inside are gorgeous, it's within our price range, great amenities.
(Time passes)
Tonight Chael is rubbing both my upper arms and my shoulder area as he didn't do my massage yesterday and is catching up.
He's already trying to get a day off the gym each week... Very unlikely to happen and I told him so.
He came home and quickly crashed in his room, he's been asleep for about two hours now. He's always one to sleep a lot, but it seems it's been more than usual lately.
Though I do need to remind him that a good part of why he needs night-time sleep meds is probably because he takes a huge nap in the middle of the day... Just maybe...
I may have to address that with him in more than the occasional smart-ass comment way.
Tonight is Zumba for me, more treadmill time for him.
I've been keeping mental tally on what he's eating each day as he wants to lose a lot of weight and asked me to. According to science he should be losing some, but in reality he's not.
I think I may have found the perfect apartment complex for us in NYC. The pictures inside are gorgeous, it's within our price range, great amenities.
(Time passes)
Tonight Chael is rubbing both my upper arms and my shoulder area as he didn't do my massage yesterday and is catching up.
He's already trying to get a day off the gym each week... Very unlikely to happen and I told him so.
Thursday, November 29, 2012
Weightlifting and Tired Chael
Did our gym time tonight. Chael's tummy was too upset to go to the BodyPump class I wanted him to attend with me, so he just did treadmill for the hour. He knocked out 4 miles while I was in class.
Killing myself in class. Oh god. On coming out I was so wobbly everywhere it was hard to walk or move at all. When I got home and went to take off my workout clothing I had to take a break and lean against the couch between pieces because my muscles kept not working.
No rub tonight. Chael fell asleep early while watching his Dr. Who's on his laptop. I know he'll give me two massages tomorrow to catch up.
Killing myself in class. Oh god. On coming out I was so wobbly everywhere it was hard to walk or move at all. When I got home and went to take off my workout clothing I had to take a break and lean against the couch between pieces because my muscles kept not working.
No rub tonight. Chael fell asleep early while watching his Dr. Who's on his laptop. I know he'll give me two massages tomorrow to catch up.
Cuddle Torture
At 10pm Chael came into the livingroom wanting to go to bed with me for his "second bedtime" ( he went to bed at 9pm, then woke up at my usual bedtime 10pm so that we could cuddle when I laid down).
I told him I'd be there in a minute and at about 10:15 I got ready for bed. I had to go wake him in his room as he'd dozed back off. We went to my room, put on the computer TV background show, and spooned up.
Thus began the Cuddle Torture.
Normally we cuddle for 15-45 minutes before Chael goes back to his room when he wakes up after a bit. During this time he sleeps and I lay there awake, as I can't fall asleep in that position. I just enjoy the snuggling for that time. I'm used to it, no problem.
Two hours later he's still in the bed and I'm still not asleep.
And so the mental debate started... Do I end our nice close time so I can get on my stomach and finally go to sleep? Or do I lay there and suck it up and let him sleep?
It became so hard laying there vacillating between the two while at the same time having the tension of wondering he was getting up every time he moved.
It ended up being the latter and after a bit longer he got up and I could pass out.
Ugh, it was, as I said, torture.
I got a good night's sleep after that, though, and after I got up he came into my room where I'd laid back down for a little bit as I waited for the morning grogginess to fade and gave me some kisses before he headed to work.
I told him I'd be there in a minute and at about 10:15 I got ready for bed. I had to go wake him in his room as he'd dozed back off. We went to my room, put on the computer TV background show, and spooned up.
Thus began the Cuddle Torture.
Normally we cuddle for 15-45 minutes before Chael goes back to his room when he wakes up after a bit. During this time he sleeps and I lay there awake, as I can't fall asleep in that position. I just enjoy the snuggling for that time. I'm used to it, no problem.
Two hours later he's still in the bed and I'm still not asleep.
And so the mental debate started... Do I end our nice close time so I can get on my stomach and finally go to sleep? Or do I lay there and suck it up and let him sleep?
It became so hard laying there vacillating between the two while at the same time having the tension of wondering he was getting up every time he moved.
It ended up being the latter and after a bit longer he got up and I could pass out.
Ugh, it was, as I said, torture.
I got a good night's sleep after that, though, and after I got up he came into my room where I'd laid back down for a little bit as I waited for the morning grogginess to fade and gave me some kisses before he headed to work.
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Past Slave
I had a wonderful domestic slave when I was living in Augusta, GA. He'd see me a couple or more times a week after work, doing chores, helping me re-do the front yard together, playing when I felt like it...
Well, we'd lost touch after I moved. I think we may have exchanged an email or two, but don't recall. The distance basically ending things too soon for us. I haven't talked to him in about 2 or so years.
He just popped up and messaged me on CollarMe out of the blue!
So I just sent him a message back about what I'm up to and asked him some similar questions. Gave me a big smile at the end of today!
On other topics, I got my Lush order in today. Was fast. It's mostly gifts for my mom but there were some things for us. Since Chael became vegan I've been shifting over the things that weren't vegan in the house that he used...
...Got some new Washday Greens shampoo for him and a bottle of Dirty Springwash shower gel for both of us. Then for my feets I bought a new jar of Fair Trade Foot Lotion and Volcano Foot Mask .
Chael's out buying margarine so that I can have some mashed potatoes with Tofurky Gravy.
Not sure what tonight's massage will be.
Well, we'd lost touch after I moved. I think we may have exchanged an email or two, but don't recall. The distance basically ending things too soon for us. I haven't talked to him in about 2 or so years.
He just popped up and messaged me on CollarMe out of the blue!
So I just sent him a message back about what I'm up to and asked him some similar questions. Gave me a big smile at the end of today!
On other topics, I got my Lush order in today. Was fast. It's mostly gifts for my mom but there were some things for us. Since Chael became vegan I've been shifting over the things that weren't vegan in the house that he used...
...Got some new Washday Greens shampoo for him and a bottle of Dirty Springwash shower gel for both of us. Then for my feets I bought a new jar of Fair Trade Foot Lotion and Volcano Foot Mask .
Chael's out buying margarine so that I can have some mashed potatoes with Tofurky Gravy.
Not sure what tonight's massage will be.
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Busting Out the Table
Chael's in the process of busting out the massage table. Tonight's rub is my back as it got a heavy workout from BodyCombat with all the punches.
Chael had to take it easy on the treadmill; his back was hurting a lot this evening.
(Time Passes)
Rub done.
I told Chael I needed him to focus on my upper back mostly and not so much on my lower. So, he gets out an oil he's been trying to use on me lately at times - I say "trying" because while it's possible to massage me with it, it's not that easy. My skin is really dry by nature so if he uses something like oil (rather than a thick cream like the Fair Trade Foot Lotion) my skin just slurps it up. He has to put extra on me and rub me before it all absorbs haha.
So, Chael puts a blanket on the table because I tend to get cold during our rubs, so we've been trying it with a blanket to lay on rather than the table itself which can be cool. Well, I still end up shivering by the end. This time I got on the blanket and Chael took the initiative with my never even thinking about it, much less suggesting it: he wrapped me up hips-down with the sides and end of the blanket so that only my upper body was uncovered for the massage.
It was a wonderful, considerate sweetness.
Then I hear him open the oil bottle and rattle the glass dropper around a little to start using it and I look up. He sees me and says, "I meant to put this in the freezer...". I respond that he's a smart-ass.
Chael starts dripping the oil on me from the dropper and then starts pressing the hollow tip against me and lifting it making little tiny suction-pops against my skin. I turn my head a little and ask, "what are you doing?". He answers in a silly tone that he's making little poppy-kisses.
I just lay my head back down and close my eyes with a bit of a smirk on my face and in my thoughts. A smart-ass, yep.
The rub proceeds and it's very nice, he's focusing on my upper back but paying attention to it all. As he does occasionally go over my lower back I can feel I have more tension there than I thought. Finally....
Me: I need you to kinda pull on my lower back
Him: Along here (shows with his hands) along the spine?
Me: along the cords of muscle that run up each side of the spine, yeah there (as he touches them).
Him: (teasingly) You said you didn't need your lower back rubbed.
Me: (mouthy) I was wrong.
Massage continues very nicely and ends. He starts to pull the table partly back to where we keep it off to the side of the livingroom. I'm focusing on other things and turn to see him up on it, on all fours, in the process of trying to grab me from the behind with this "I'm being sneaky and playful and gonna get her" face. And he stops because he got caught but still smiles at me and makes a show of putting his hands back down like he feels apologetic. This gives me a grin and a little laugh.
I look at him and I get an urge/idea.
Me: Would you like a back rub?
Him: That would be nice.
Me: (in a hard, self-mocking, ordering tone) Then lie down!
I massage his back using that same oil that works just fine on him. He is happy.
I went and washed the excess oil off my hands, he got up, I sat down with my ipad to type this and he's now in his room watching old Dr. Who's on his laptop in bed (well, his blankets on the floor).
Pleasant way to end a night. I'm going to get some soy yogurt or something out of the kitchen for my last meal today.
Chael had to take it easy on the treadmill; his back was hurting a lot this evening.
(Time Passes)
Rub done.
I told Chael I needed him to focus on my upper back mostly and not so much on my lower. So, he gets out an oil he's been trying to use on me lately at times - I say "trying" because while it's possible to massage me with it, it's not that easy. My skin is really dry by nature so if he uses something like oil (rather than a thick cream like the Fair Trade Foot Lotion) my skin just slurps it up. He has to put extra on me and rub me before it all absorbs haha.
So, Chael puts a blanket on the table because I tend to get cold during our rubs, so we've been trying it with a blanket to lay on rather than the table itself which can be cool. Well, I still end up shivering by the end. This time I got on the blanket and Chael took the initiative with my never even thinking about it, much less suggesting it: he wrapped me up hips-down with the sides and end of the blanket so that only my upper body was uncovered for the massage.
It was a wonderful, considerate sweetness.
Then I hear him open the oil bottle and rattle the glass dropper around a little to start using it and I look up. He sees me and says, "I meant to put this in the freezer...". I respond that he's a smart-ass.
Chael starts dripping the oil on me from the dropper and then starts pressing the hollow tip against me and lifting it making little tiny suction-pops against my skin. I turn my head a little and ask, "what are you doing?". He answers in a silly tone that he's making little poppy-kisses.
I just lay my head back down and close my eyes with a bit of a smirk on my face and in my thoughts. A smart-ass, yep.
The rub proceeds and it's very nice, he's focusing on my upper back but paying attention to it all. As he does occasionally go over my lower back I can feel I have more tension there than I thought. Finally....
Me: I need you to kinda pull on my lower back
Him: Along here (shows with his hands) along the spine?
Me: along the cords of muscle that run up each side of the spine, yeah there (as he touches them).
Him: (teasingly) You said you didn't need your lower back rubbed.
Me: (mouthy) I was wrong.
Massage continues very nicely and ends. He starts to pull the table partly back to where we keep it off to the side of the livingroom. I'm focusing on other things and turn to see him up on it, on all fours, in the process of trying to grab me from the behind with this "I'm being sneaky and playful and gonna get her" face. And he stops because he got caught but still smiles at me and makes a show of putting his hands back down like he feels apologetic. This gives me a grin and a little laugh.
I look at him and I get an urge/idea.
Me: Would you like a back rub?
Him: That would be nice.
Me: (in a hard, self-mocking, ordering tone) Then lie down!
I massage his back using that same oil that works just fine on him. He is happy.
I went and washed the excess oil off my hands, he got up, I sat down with my ipad to type this and he's now in his room watching old Dr. Who's on his laptop in bed (well, his blankets on the floor).
Pleasant way to end a night. I'm going to get some soy yogurt or something out of the kitchen for my last meal today.
Money Matters
Rearranging our money situation.
Years ago I set things up where Chael and I have separate personal accounts and a joint account. Our pay gets deposited into our personal accounts, we both put amounts I set into the joint fund, Chael gives me $500 of his pay, and our personal bills and spending comes out of our separate accounts. Shared bills like rent and mutual groceries I pay for with our joint money.
This has been working great, but with the upcoming move and the changes in our budget it will involve I'm changing our arrangement.
I'm picking us a new bank as we're not thrilled with our current one. All of our pay will be direct deposited into it. All bills will be paid out of it by me and a set amount put into savings each month. Then I will set an amount of allowance each of us will get to place in our own accounts and spend how we wish.
As the budget will allow for it, the $500 Chael is to give me a month will be included in my allowance as it is a separate personal arrangement from house expenses and payments. Also, he will keep all money from his web stores as his own.
Time to get going on making it happen.
Years ago I set things up where Chael and I have separate personal accounts and a joint account. Our pay gets deposited into our personal accounts, we both put amounts I set into the joint fund, Chael gives me $500 of his pay, and our personal bills and spending comes out of our separate accounts. Shared bills like rent and mutual groceries I pay for with our joint money.
This has been working great, but with the upcoming move and the changes in our budget it will involve I'm changing our arrangement.
I'm picking us a new bank as we're not thrilled with our current one. All of our pay will be direct deposited into it. All bills will be paid out of it by me and a set amount put into savings each month. Then I will set an amount of allowance each of us will get to place in our own accounts and spend how we wish.
As the budget will allow for it, the $500 Chael is to give me a month will be included in my allowance as it is a separate personal arrangement from house expenses and payments. Also, he will keep all money from his web stores as his own.
Time to get going on making it happen.
Monday, November 26, 2012
Gym Requirements
I'm healthy again and so we're back to the gym tonight. I did an hour long Zumba class while Chael did treadmill walking and I think some weights, didn't ask if he added that today.
I go daily, minimum of an hour of exercise. He's required to come and do an hour of something, too. Mostly cardio but with weights some days. I haven't set him on a specific regimen yet, I'm just focused on him getting into the everyday habit. He doesn't really get much out of PT in the mornings and after he retires he'll have to do daily gym time with me, so I decided he needs to start now.
He wants to lose a lot of weight so he's been being more aware of what he eats, too.
He wants to be thinner for Camp Crucible this year so he'll feel more comfortable naked or running around in a loin cloth.
Tonight's rub was a head massage and relaxing hair smoothing and pulling while I sat between his legs and leaned back against his chest. It felt very sweet and intimate.
I go daily, minimum of an hour of exercise. He's required to come and do an hour of something, too. Mostly cardio but with weights some days. I haven't set him on a specific regimen yet, I'm just focused on him getting into the everyday habit. He doesn't really get much out of PT in the mornings and after he retires he'll have to do daily gym time with me, so I decided he needs to start now.
He wants to lose a lot of weight so he's been being more aware of what he eats, too.
He wants to be thinner for Camp Crucible this year so he'll feel more comfortable naked or running around in a loin cloth.
Tonight's rub was a head massage and relaxing hair smoothing and pulling while I sat between his legs and leaned back against his chest. It felt very sweet and intimate.
Xmas Present Arrival!
My Christmas present from Chael arrived in the mail today!
They are even more beautiful in person. The weight is noticeable in my ears but not too heavy. They are 5/8" size and are through my 3/4" lobes... I'm thinking it's a good thing they are smaller, being hand-carved there is some variation in the size and they are comfortably snug.
A little tricky to get in. Due to being spiraled and the head of the dragon being larger I have to put them in bottom-first, then swivel them around the spiral til they are in the right place.
The detail to the carvings is just amazing.
They are even more beautiful in person. The weight is noticeable in my ears but not too heavy. They are 5/8" size and are through my 3/4" lobes... I'm thinking it's a good thing they are smaller, being hand-carved there is some variation in the size and they are comfortably snug.
A little tricky to get in. Due to being spiraled and the head of the dragon being larger I have to put them in bottom-first, then swivel them around the spiral til they are in the right place.
The detail to the carvings is just amazing.
Sunday, November 25, 2012
Freezing in the Morning
I didn't go to bed until about 5:30 am this morning...
...and immediately found I was freezing.
One of those types of cold where you pile the blankets on and up around your ears. One where your toes and nose feel like they're frozen. Where you try to warm your icy hands by placing them between your thighs and only succeed in making your thighs cold. Where you lay there in misery shivering and miserable.
And I thought, "Getting Chael up to come curl up with me would help get me warm faster".
But then I thought, "Chael's asleep and work usually gets him up around now; if I wake him he may not be able to go back to sleep".
Back and forth.
Finally the cold won.
...and immediately found I was freezing.
One of those types of cold where you pile the blankets on and up around your ears. One where your toes and nose feel like they're frozen. Where you try to warm your icy hands by placing them between your thighs and only succeed in making your thighs cold. Where you lay there in misery shivering and miserable.
And I thought, "Getting Chael up to come curl up with me would help get me warm faster".
But then I thought, "Chael's asleep and work usually gets him up around now; if I wake him he may not be able to go back to sleep".
Back and forth.
Finally the cold won.
Saturday, November 24, 2012
Hot Water Bottle Service
Came into my room to get sitting in bed with the blankets over my legs while I used my ipad and commented on my way into my bedroom to Chael that I was cold, when we were in the hallway.
I get all settled in and start reading and he arrives with a hot water bottle that I didn't even think to ask for.
Oh, and tonight's massage was feet.
I get all settled in and start reading and he arrives with a hot water bottle that I didn't even think to ask for.
Oh, and tonight's massage was feet.
Star Wars Law
Oh, a rule in this house: The Star Wars prequel do not count and will never be played in my home.
Extra Foot Rub
I decided on our drive home yesterday that I'd grant Chael a day off from rubbing me as he,d asked for one the day before and we'd had a hectic day. I felt we both should just veg out for the night.
He said about an hour or two later while I drove that he was thinking he might do it anyways because he was feeling so sweet towards me after the nice day together.
So sure enough, he turned on Star Wars for us, had me eat dinner he made from holiday left-overs for me, and then rubbed my feet even though I'd given him the day off.
It made me all kinds of happy and squishy inside.
He said about an hour or two later while I drove that he was thinking he might do it anyways because he was feeling so sweet towards me after the nice day together.
So sure enough, he turned on Star Wars for us, had me eat dinner he made from holiday left-overs for me, and then rubbed my feet even though I'd given him the day off.
It made me all kinds of happy and squishy inside.
Friday, November 23, 2012
Travel and Dinner
So we traveled an 8 hour round-trip to Chael's parents' house near Houston to visit for a couple hours and drop off a large amount of stuff for them to yard sale at his mom's church.
It was a less awkward visit than usual... They're really nice people, but in a way that makes me uncomfortable.... Like I feel like they'd be nice to me even if they couldn't stand me. Coming from the family and area of the world I do, this makes me very uneasy.
The drives were long but bearable. Chael drove down as I played on my ipad and chatted. I drove back and we listened to my music and chatted.
On the way back we stopped at an Indian place for lunch and had some yummy food. An aspect directly attached to our having an FLR: I decide what we'll both eat and I order.
Before the food we visited the Texas Prison Museum and I took a picture of the actual electric chair they used to use.
At a gas station on the way home Chael bought me two animal hats, a cow and an owl. Then I wore the cow and he wore the owl while we went to stores and lunch.
Right now he's cooking me dinner and we're settling in to watch Star Wars.
It was a less awkward visit than usual... They're really nice people, but in a way that makes me uncomfortable.... Like I feel like they'd be nice to me even if they couldn't stand me. Coming from the family and area of the world I do, this makes me very uneasy.
The drives were long but bearable. Chael drove down as I played on my ipad and chatted. I drove back and we listened to my music and chatted.
On the way back we stopped at an Indian place for lunch and had some yummy food. An aspect directly attached to our having an FLR: I decide what we'll both eat and I order.
Before the food we visited the Texas Prison Museum and I took a picture of the actual electric chair they used to use.
At a gas station on the way home Chael bought me two animal hats, a cow and an owl. Then I wore the cow and he wore the owl while we went to stores and lunch.
Right now he's cooking me dinner and we're settling in to watch Star Wars.
Present!
I decided on what I wanted for Christmas from Chael this year yesterday.
On http://Bodyartforms.com there was a pair of hand-carved dragon earrings made out of fossilized mammoth tusk. I'd been lusting after them for months thinking about buying them then telling myself they were too expensive, then doing that again and again.
I got a notice that they were having a 25% off sale today for Black Friday so I asked Chael if he'd be willing to get them for me and he said yes!
This morning when going to buy them he noticed what I had not: there was a note on the selling page that they weren't part of the sale (presumably because they are a one of a kind item).
I was sad and said "oh no!" He said, "we'll, I'm just going to have to get them for you anyways" in a teasing and sweet tone (he's been subject to my vacillation on them these past couple-three months lol).
So they were ordered this morning and might be delivered today as BAF is about 1 hour from us and when they ship them in the morning sometimes it arrives the same day. At latest they'll be here tomorrow.
So excited and happy towards him.
On http://Bodyartforms.com there was a pair of hand-carved dragon earrings made out of fossilized mammoth tusk. I'd been lusting after them for months thinking about buying them then telling myself they were too expensive, then doing that again and again.
I got a notice that they were having a 25% off sale today for Black Friday so I asked Chael if he'd be willing to get them for me and he said yes!
This morning when going to buy them he noticed what I had not: there was a note on the selling page that they weren't part of the sale (presumably because they are a one of a kind item).
I was sad and said "oh no!" He said, "we'll, I'm just going to have to get them for you anyways" in a teasing and sweet tone (he's been subject to my vacillation on them these past couple-three months lol).
So they were ordered this morning and might be delivered today as BAF is about 1 hour from us and when they ship them in the morning sometimes it arrives the same day. At latest they'll be here tomorrow.
So excited and happy towards him.
Rough Night
Last night was a rough night with Chael.
He came and said he wanted a day off from rubbing me and that it being a holiday it was a perfect day for it.
This upset me greatly. It felt like he was unhappy doing it every night and from his way of expressing himself it additionally felt so.
So there was crying. I admit it.
Ultimately we worked it out by talking and hand holding and hugging and kisses.
Then we curled up in my bed, spooned, and went to sleep.
He came and said he wanted a day off from rubbing me and that it being a holiday it was a perfect day for it.
This upset me greatly. It felt like he was unhappy doing it every night and from his way of expressing himself it additionally felt so.
So there was crying. I admit it.
Ultimately we worked it out by talking and hand holding and hugging and kisses.
Then we curled up in my bed, spooned, and went to sleep.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
After The Meal
I'm so full I feel like I could explode.
Chael made a delicious anniversary meal, as always. The broccoli was to die for.
He said wonderfully sweet things to me and we discussed things we liked and things we could work on in our relationships. Then just general chatting.
A lovely evening.
He's now cleaning up and we'll do a back rub for me in a little bit.
Chael made a delicious anniversary meal, as always. The broccoli was to die for.
He said wonderfully sweet things to me and we discussed things we liked and things we could work on in our relationships. Then just general chatting.
A lovely evening.
He's now cleaning up and we'll do a back rub for me in a little bit.
Fall Anniversary
Today's our Fall Anniversary. It is always the day before Thanksgiving, therefor it is a floating holiday. It's to celebrate the day we met and started our friendship. This anniversary each year is our main one (as opposed to our marriage one).
To celebrate, Chael makes a meal of duck with orange sauce (with fake duck), rice pilaf, and broccoli. We sit down to the table in candle light, our meal, and glasses of wine. It is lovely time together.
We've been friends for 16 years now. He is my very best friend and that is what our relationship is first and foremost based in, hence this being our most important anniversary.
To celebrate, Chael makes a meal of duck with orange sauce (with fake duck), rice pilaf, and broccoli. We sit down to the table in candle light, our meal, and glasses of wine. It is lovely time together.
We've been friends for 16 years now. He is my very best friend and that is what our relationship is first and foremost based in, hence this being our most important anniversary.
Massage
Chael and I retrieved the massage table from the storage facility on his urging. He wanted to set it up in the livingroom so that we can use it for my daily massages.
It seems to be working out pretty well, over all.
It seems to be working out pretty well, over all.
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Cutting Chael
Going over to YouTube it occurred to me to link a video I made of me cutting the pin-up girl design into Chael a couple years back.
For those unfamiliar with my work, this is a temporary cutting done a #11 and #15 scalpel. I use surgical soap as prep, alcohol to transfer the design, nitrile gloves, and sterile single-use blades. These are Very shallow cuts so as to be temporary. Within about 4 months you could no longer find where I'd put the design.
Chael and I have done many of these, along with my doing them on others.
For those unfamiliar with my work, this is a temporary cutting done a #11 and #15 scalpel. I use surgical soap as prep, alcohol to transfer the design, nitrile gloves, and sterile single-use blades. These are Very shallow cuts so as to be temporary. Within about 4 months you could no longer find where I'd put the design.
Chael and I have done many of these, along with my doing them on others.
Heights
In the kitchen earlier something occurred to me.... I had Chael kneel and hug me around the waist like we sometimes do.
With our heights that puts his face exactly between my breasts.
This realization occurs after a failed attempt to surprise force him to kneel; I grabbed his collar and started to pull him towards me and down... And he just turned and started to hug me and I gave him a disgruntled hug back.
"What's the matter?"
"I was pulling down"
"Why?"
"I was trying to make you kneel"
"You gotta pull harder"
He wasn't being an ass, he was joking because he totally missed what I was trying to do.
There go some of my Dom Points.
lulz.
Relating to the kitchen part, he just came in to tell me he's mostly cleaned the kitchen and may be making the orange sauce for tomorrow's Fall Anniversary Meal tonight. And now he's in his room tinkering with the guitar I bought him last Christmas.
With our heights that puts his face exactly between my breasts.
This realization occurs after a failed attempt to surprise force him to kneel; I grabbed his collar and started to pull him towards me and down... And he just turned and started to hug me and I gave him a disgruntled hug back.
"What's the matter?"
"I was pulling down"
"Why?"
"I was trying to make you kneel"
"You gotta pull harder"
He wasn't being an ass, he was joking because he totally missed what I was trying to do.
There go some of my Dom Points.
lulz.
Relating to the kitchen part, he just came in to tell me he's mostly cleaned the kitchen and may be making the orange sauce for tomorrow's Fall Anniversary Meal tonight. And now he's in his room tinkering with the guitar I bought him last Christmas.
Three Current Rules
Three things:
Veganism
Hydration
No Diet Pop
I've been working with Chael on these for a while and he,s recently been doing very well on them.
He chose to go lacto-ovo veggie about 7 years ago, about a year after I did, due to his Buddhism. I've long since made the transition to vegan and have been trying to get him switched over, too. He'd do we'll for a bit, then fall back, over and over. I could appreciate this as I had a hard time transitioning. I told him again a few weeks ago that I seriously want him to make the change now.
So far, so good. His approach has been much different this time and that's been the key difference. In the past I've expressed that I'd prefer he be vegan and he's made an effort toward trying. This time I told him that I seriously wanted to make the change now. So, a bit after we were in the veggie meats section picking up some things and we got only the vegan stuff... We walked away and he said, "I guess I'm vegan now?" I said, "yep!" And he's been vegan. He's taken it on as something he is rather than something he's trying.
I'm very proud of him.
Chael has a bad habit of not drinking enough water and instead living on regular soda (pre-diabetic) or diet soda (diabetic). So he's "under orders" to drink water instead. He bought a bottle for it and so far drinks at least one a day. After he's well in the habit I'll up his daily requirement.
So far so good.
As mentioned above, he used to drink WAY too much soda. When he found out he was diabetic he switched to way too much diet soda. As artificial sweeteners are unnecessary to ingest and may have negative effects on health and weight (which he's trying to lose) he's not to regularly drink anything with artificial sweeteners. He does now once in a great while, but it's not at all the norm.
It's coming along well.
And, with a sudden loud burst of Gangnam Style from his room, I'm ending this note.
Veganism
Hydration
No Diet Pop
I've been working with Chael on these for a while and he,s recently been doing very well on them.
He chose to go lacto-ovo veggie about 7 years ago, about a year after I did, due to his Buddhism. I've long since made the transition to vegan and have been trying to get him switched over, too. He'd do we'll for a bit, then fall back, over and over. I could appreciate this as I had a hard time transitioning. I told him again a few weeks ago that I seriously want him to make the change now.
So far, so good. His approach has been much different this time and that's been the key difference. In the past I've expressed that I'd prefer he be vegan and he's made an effort toward trying. This time I told him that I seriously wanted to make the change now. So, a bit after we were in the veggie meats section picking up some things and we got only the vegan stuff... We walked away and he said, "I guess I'm vegan now?" I said, "yep!" And he's been vegan. He's taken it on as something he is rather than something he's trying.
I'm very proud of him.
Chael has a bad habit of not drinking enough water and instead living on regular soda (pre-diabetic) or diet soda (diabetic). So he's "under orders" to drink water instead. He bought a bottle for it and so far drinks at least one a day. After he's well in the habit I'll up his daily requirement.
So far so good.
As mentioned above, he used to drink WAY too much soda. When he found out he was diabetic he switched to way too much diet soda. As artificial sweeteners are unnecessary to ingest and may have negative effects on health and weight (which he's trying to lose) he's not to regularly drink anything with artificial sweeteners. He does now once in a great while, but it's not at all the norm.
It's coming along well.
And, with a sudden loud burst of Gangnam Style from his room, I'm ending this note.
Monday, November 19, 2012
Service and Sweetness
Chael comes home early from work today, as is a common theme lately. He's brought the sushi I mentioned in Twitter and places it on the bed for me as I'm sitting there.
I unwrap it and start munching and he tells me about his day.
Apparently he went out to Thai food with a co-worker he's friendly with and they went by our storage facility so that Chael could let him pick over the things we're getting rid of. Chael ended up with new homes for several items. So that was a little bit of stress off me.
He also acquired from the co-worker some gently used ACUs that he wants to run by me so I check out what size Grace wears in Delta Chat and a set is going to her, the rest to be discarded somehow (I won't wear an Army uniform again).
(Extended pause in writing)
Just got done with my nightly rub. Tonight I told him feet so we got in our normal foot rub position: blanket on the living room floor, me laying on my stomach, him sitting behind me rubbing while watching TV.... Some cartoon movie called Spirit or The Spirit, idk.
I fell asleep a few times while he was rubbing me. I just have to make it a couple more hours and then I can lay down for bed. If I fall asleep now, despite being up since yesterday morning, I'll wake up mid-night.
Edited to add:
He showed off his Yoda to co-workers today. They liked it and he was happy lol.
I unwrap it and start munching and he tells me about his day.
Apparently he went out to Thai food with a co-worker he's friendly with and they went by our storage facility so that Chael could let him pick over the things we're getting rid of. Chael ended up with new homes for several items. So that was a little bit of stress off me.
He also acquired from the co-worker some gently used ACUs that he wants to run by me so I check out what size Grace wears in Delta Chat and a set is going to her, the rest to be discarded somehow (I won't wear an Army uniform again).
(Extended pause in writing)
Just got done with my nightly rub. Tonight I told him feet so we got in our normal foot rub position: blanket on the living room floor, me laying on my stomach, him sitting behind me rubbing while watching TV.... Some cartoon movie called Spirit or The Spirit, idk.
I fell asleep a few times while he was rubbing me. I just have to make it a couple more hours and then I can lay down for bed. If I fall asleep now, despite being up since yesterday morning, I'll wake up mid-night.
Edited to add:
He showed off his Yoda to co-workers today. They liked it and he was happy lol.
The Profile Says So
CollarMe funny where a troll caught himself. Name changed, was sent to my profile linked over there --->
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Recent Message History:
Him on 11/19/12 at 4:10 PM:
Oh my...I have to compliment you on those needles to the back..wow, very creative. How long does one of those take to do? Must be hours?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 4:21 PM:
Hello and thank you. The longest any have taken was 3 hrs 10 min. But those are the really big ones on Redeye (the black bottom). The smaller ones I do on others usually take about 30-45 minutes.
Him on 11/19/12 at 4:22 PM:
I am very impressed....it must take tons of patience and hand eye coordination. On your profile, you mention moving to the east coast, is that this spring?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 4:56 PM:
Yep, around that timeframe, maybe a bit earlier. We're just waiting to see how slow/fast my husband's retirement paperwork goes through.
Him on 11/19/12 at 4:58 PM:
Retirement? How old is he?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 4:59 PM:
Yup, he's 41. Did his 20 years of Army service.
Him on 11/19/12 at 5:00 PM:
Does he know you are searching for subs?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 5:02 PM:
Yep, says so in my profile.
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Ah, profiles so hard to read and , ah, oh so hard when finding females who are honest with their partner(s).
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Recent Message History:
Him on 11/19/12 at 4:10 PM:
Oh my...I have to compliment you on those needles to the back..wow, very creative. How long does one of those take to do? Must be hours?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 4:21 PM:
Hello and thank you. The longest any have taken was 3 hrs 10 min. But those are the really big ones on Redeye (the black bottom). The smaller ones I do on others usually take about 30-45 minutes.
Him on 11/19/12 at 4:22 PM:
I am very impressed....it must take tons of patience and hand eye coordination. On your profile, you mention moving to the east coast, is that this spring?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 4:56 PM:
Yep, around that timeframe, maybe a bit earlier. We're just waiting to see how slow/fast my husband's retirement paperwork goes through.
Him on 11/19/12 at 4:58 PM:
Retirement? How old is he?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 4:59 PM:
Yup, he's 41. Did his 20 years of Army service.
Him on 11/19/12 at 5:00 PM:
Does he know you are searching for subs?
RumpusParable on 11/19/12 at 5:02 PM:
Yep, says so in my profile.
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Ah, profiles so hard to read and , ah, oh so hard when finding females who are honest with their partner(s).
Morning Cuddle
Chael got home from PT at 7am.
After getting undressed and all he came into my room and expressed he wanted to cuddle. We'd missed last night's bedtime curl-up as he went to bed before 10pm and, well, I never did.
So we proceeded to have a lovely cuddle.
Our normal configuration is spooning on our right-hand side with him as the big spoon, his right arm stretched out under my pillow and holding my right hand. His and my left arms wrap around my waist.
So we're lying there relaxing, enjoying the spooning. It's a nice time of warm bodies, closeness, gentle touches, and teasing comments... Such as:
(he starts moving his legs around and pulling around the blanket)
Me: what are you doing? (wondering if he's getting up)
Him: I'm adjusting the blankets
Me: okay
(he gets the blankets how he wants and returns to spoon-position)
Him: sweaty girl
Me: I'm not sweaty, you are
Him: that's what you always say
Me: cuz it's true!
Him: then why is there sweat on you?
Me: because your touching me!!
And so after a laugh we go back to relaxing with him sometimes drawing circles on my back or running his hand down my left arm.
Then Jonesy sees what's up and decides he wants all in on the cuddle action.
Eventually we turn so I'm the big spoon.
Eventually, we get up.
And then he went and filled my tea cup again.
After getting undressed and all he came into my room and expressed he wanted to cuddle. We'd missed last night's bedtime curl-up as he went to bed before 10pm and, well, I never did.
So we proceeded to have a lovely cuddle.
Our normal configuration is spooning on our right-hand side with him as the big spoon, his right arm stretched out under my pillow and holding my right hand. His and my left arms wrap around my waist.
So we're lying there relaxing, enjoying the spooning. It's a nice time of warm bodies, closeness, gentle touches, and teasing comments... Such as:
(he starts moving his legs around and pulling around the blanket)
Me: what are you doing? (wondering if he's getting up)
Him: I'm adjusting the blankets
Me: okay
(he gets the blankets how he wants and returns to spoon-position)
Him: sweaty girl
Me: I'm not sweaty, you are
Him: that's what you always say
Me: cuz it's true!
Him: then why is there sweat on you?
Me: because your touching me!!
And so after a laugh we go back to relaxing with him sometimes drawing circles on my back or running his hand down my left arm.
Then Jonesy sees what's up and decides he wants all in on the cuddle action.
Eventually we turn so I'm the big spoon.
Eventually, we get up.
And then he went and filled my tea cup again.
In The Beginning...
...Rumpus said, "Thou shalt have sleep".
And the universe laughed, establishing once again that she was not yet God.
I've been up all night. Chael was asleep so I sat here for hours thinking every 15 minutes or so that I was thirsty and would get up in a little bit to refill my tea glass.
Yeah, at about 4:30am Chael filled it for me as he was getting ready for work.
And the universe laughed, establishing once again that she was not yet God.
I've been up all night. Chael was asleep so I sat here for hours thinking every 15 minutes or so that I was thirsty and would get up in a little bit to refill my tea glass.
Yeah, at about 4:30am Chael filled it for me as he was getting ready for work.
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