Not about my marriage, but about the subject of divorce, over all.
Am I really the only person on this planet that sees the high divorce rate as a GOOD thing?
People didn't stay together when they couldn't divorce because they wanted to, but because they couldn't get a divorce... so -like many of the non-divorced today still- they live in misery, boredom, loathing; through abuse, sexual and emotional mismatching and unhappiness, wrong choices and even drunk nights in Vegas.
Or, again as with many today still, they lived unmarried while stuck legally bound... cheating, separation, more abuse, etc. and on some rare occasions a happy, keep-it-from-the-neighbors, understanding.
Now, divorce is available and easier to get. People who should've never married can correct it. People who have grown to hate one another can step away and make happier lives. Abused men and women can leave and seek healthier options alone or with new partners.
Miserable togetherness can be ended legally with full individual rights restored.
Marriage shouldn't be a trap one is caught in. If the paperwork is the only reason one is staying then, IMO, it's not a marriage in the meaningful sense anyways. The people are ALREADY divorced, they're just locked in a legal cage with one another.
Divorce and the availability of it and the fact that people are making use of it, are beautiful, happy, healthy things.
Does one hope that a relationship is healthy, happy, and lasting in it's goodness? Surely! But those aren't where divorce happens. People don't say "things are great! let's end it!". Legal divorce happens AFTER the marriage is dead and gone, even if one half refuses to acknowledge it yet.
Death of the goodness of a relationship is a sadness, being able to leave when that occurs and there is no resuscitation possible is a joyful option.
Just had to get that out after reading another rant about "sanctity of marriage" and the divorce rate.
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